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I recently made a leadership decision that was fraught with some amount of peril.
Most good leadership decisions are. If you’re not risking, you’re probably not leading as aggressively as you should.
I was contacted by someone who expressed genuine concern about the decision I had made. I was so impressed by them and their attitude, I decided to share it with you.
Here’s what they did right:
1. They contacted me privately.
They did not confront me publicly, setting up a situation where I felt I had to prove my point or lose face. They did not rant on Facebook.
2. They communicated their appreciation for my leadership.
Honest appreciation is the oil that greases the gears of life and relationships, my friends. Use more of it.
3. They assumed they might not have all the information I had.
Usually, people assume that the leader doesn’t have all the information they have… and the decision was a bad one. (And that could be the case!) But it is safer and far more gracious to assume that the leader has information they don’t have.
This one little tweak raises you near a Level Ninja Conflict Manager.
If you don’t have this perspective, you won’t be able to listen… you’ll come in fighting to be heard, not to listen.
4. They communicated their concern about the situation.
I never mind when someone communicates their concern. As C.S. Lewis says in the Chronicles of Narnia, “If there is a wasp in the room, I should like to know where it is.” I’d rather know ahead of time if someone has concerns.
If you’re a leader who can’t handle that, then find something else to do – don’t pastor a church. But they sure made it easier to handle!
Campus pastors have one of the most important jobs when starting a church plant or going multisite. They are the visionary leaders that guide the mission behind the new campus. It is crucial to take the time to invest and develop the leaders of a new campus. Here are ten ways you can invest in and develop your campus pastors.
1. Create a campus pastor culture.
You should always be looking to develop your next campus pastor. Ask every leader on your staff if they see themselves as a campus pastor. If someone sees themselves as eventually becoming a campus pastor, you are able to start developing them early on.
2. Require every leader to name a successor.
Every leader, no matter the ministry, must name a successor. Ask them who will take over their position, or who would take over a new campus position? When they name two or three people, have them start developing and mentoring their successors.
3. Meet with campus pastors one-on-one.
It’s important to meet as a group but also sit down face-to-face and ask campus pastors about their challenges and successes. The classroom can’t compete with on the job training. One-on-one meetings can provide feedback of what the campus pastors are doing well (and not doing well) as well as what they can do better in the future. This feedback is critical in huge in developing campus pastors. The only way to develop campus pastors is to let them make mistakes and walk through how to learn from the situation to grow into an even better campus pastor.
4. Encourage experienced campus pastors to coach inexperienced campus pastors.
Campus pastors coaching and mentoring other campus pastors is largely beneficial for both parties. Having one experienced campus pastor developing an inexperienced campus pastor allows for the mentee to ask real and practical questions about what they are facing and talk to someone who has been through similar situations.
If it’s not their husband or wife, most say they would decline an invitation for dinner alone.
Most Americans believe it’s inappropriate to dine alone with anyone of the opposite sex who is not your spouse, according to new research from The New York Times.
The social situation became hotly debated after a 2002 profile of then-Rep. Mike Pence resurfaced following his election to the vice presidency.
At the time of the profile, Pence stated he didn’t eat alone with women other than his wife, following what has become known as the “Billy Graham Rule.”
Early in his ministry, Billy Graham established accountability guidelines to avoid falling into temptations he saw bringing down other ministers. These principles were drawn up in a compact that became known as the “Modesto Manifesto.”
The intent was to “avoid any situation that would have even the appearance of compromise or suspicion.” This included not having meals alone with a woman other than his wife.
As it turns out, most Americans agree with that rule—especially women.
Men are split as to whether it is appropriate for a man to have dinner alone with a woman who is not his spouse. Forty-five percent say it is inappropriate, while 43 percent disagree.
Meanwhile, a majority of women (53 percent) see dinner alone as inappropriate. Only 35 percent see nothing wrong.
Have a search box or form on your website that runs over HTTP? You might want to switch your pages over to HTTPS by October.
Google has announced new efforts within Chrome to encourage webmasters and site owners to move their sites to HTTPS. Later this year, Google’s Chrome browser will show a warning message on pages that have search boxes or forms to fill out.
Google said, “[in] October 2017, Chrome will show the ‘Not secure’ warning in two additional situations: when users enter data on an HTTP page, and on all HTTP pages visited in Incognito mode.”
Here is the timeline for this Chrome launch.