I am …. an emaciated do gooder!!!
What classic leader are you?
Yesterday’s post on Tetris got me thinking as to how I’ve handled trauma when it’s wended its way into my life.
And wend its way it undoubtedly will – no false, plastic optimism here.
So how have I survived?
I think it all comes down to 2 things for me …
# 1 – taking up the love offered by family & friends. I cannot imagine the loneliness of having no one to turn to, or worse still, refusing to get the help proffered by those who love you unreservedly.
# 2 – escape! I’ve often handled trauma by escaping from it. Escaping into photography, a computer game, a holiday or just zoning out. At my worst moments I’ve even considered permanently escaping from all my pressures & becoming a gardener!!! Whilst running away doesn’t work, temporary relief has saved me many times.
Mentoring is a one of my favourite pastoral activities.
Therefore during January I plan my mentoring for the year ahead.
I actively mentor my pastoral team with regular mentoring appointments. It’s a simple formula. They sit in my office, fire a question on any topic & away we go, chatting for 30 mins. Simple but highly effective.
I mentor my board & pastors through a bi-monthly D Group. D is for development so this group is aimed at developing two things. Firstly rapport & connection between myself & these key leaders. Secondly their leadership capacity.
I also enjoy mentoring volunteer leaders. Last year I spent time with our Young Adult leaders mentoring them in monthly meetings.
This year I’m doing something different – I meeting with different groups of men over a 6 month period for intensive bible studies.
It’s mid-January & already all my appointments for these mentoring moments are in my diary – it’s a priority for me.
If planning is important then an annual planning process is absolutely vital.
A couple of folks have asked me to expand on what my January planning activities look like. So here we go!
During January I work on the year ahead as I:
I like doing this in January because it is the quietest time in our church calendar therefore our office is not so busy & buzzing.
I find I need peace & quiet to concentrate – definitely no music, I’m a baby boomer! Though I do like having other people around whom I can harass when I am overwhelmed by it all!
Another plus about January is I have no travel commitments so my time is less pressured.
I love doing this on the blank canvas of A3 paper. I doodle, brainstorm ideas & ask prayerful questions like “What do you want us to do that we are not yet contemplating?”
It’s important to leave space in your calendar, week, day, meetings for God to act above & beyond our wildest dreams.
All this thinking, reflecting & planning enables us to enter the year with a sense of what Christ has planned for us.
Every January for me is an intensive time of planning, setting goals, praying, contemplating the year ahead for our church, thinking vision & leadership.
I tend to do this with sheets of A3 paper, a big picture annual calendar & lots of coffee!
When I arrived at the office this week, my PA Vicky had even put a pack of colouring pencils on my desk … so I had fun colouring in A3 sheets!