“How do you get rid of nervousness when you speak?”, she asked after I finished my presentation.
“Do you mean me personally, or are you just asking for a general answer?”
She chuckled a little at my retort. “You personally.”
“Oh, that’s easy. I don’t. Thank you very much. Have a good evening.”
I began walking away from the lectern with a smirk, then quickly returned to even more laughter.
“Honestly, you don’t get rid of it. You refocus it.”
Public speaking is a chore for some. They marvel at those who seem to be able to do it with ease. And, it really does look easy. But, experienced public speakers have usually just mastered some tricks of the trade. However, most people aren’t experienced public speakers, and so they tend to rack up the anxiety points.
What do you do with this?
1. Change your physical pose. Tony Robbins continually mentions the idea of ramping up your physical expression to change your mental approach. Yelling like a warrior decreases the ability for your body to feel nervousness. Amy Cuddy has another approach. Stand like a superhero.
2. Talk to your audience beforehand. If you mingle with them, whether it is a large crowd or a small board room, you will be able to grab a sense of where they are emotionally and mentally. But what if you don’t have a lot of time? You should still get there early and greet as many at the door as possible. Don’t get there after them. Let them enter YOUR energy zone.
What are the priorities of a pastor in the work of the ministry?
That’s a tricky question. I’m fascinated by leadership and management principles that find their roots in the lives of Jesus, the apostles, and other biblical characters.
But I also know that management comes second to theology and spirituality. That is, we are disciples before we are shepherds, and we are shepherds before we are managers in the modern sense of the word.
My own ministry is often filled with what I would term “paperwork.” I have a background in design and marketing and wrote a book about using social media in ministry, so naturally I spend a lot of time creating things, especially for the web.
I believe that it’s important for the church to put her best foot forward, so I am often driven by the details.
Occasionally, however, I find myself in need of a revival of right priorities for ministry. And when those moments come, I remind myself of the three “P’s” of ministry that need to remain in the right order.
First, Prayer Work
Acts six is unavoidable in any discussion about priorities in ministry. The overworked apostles, under pressure by various interest-groups within the church, needed desperately to get back to the Bible and prayer.
So they asked the church to set aside seven men to oversee the benevolence work of the church, that they might give themselves more fully to time with God.
If you’re thinking about starting a blog, the most important thing I have to say to you is: go for it! Start your blog! Just do it! Blogging is a great SEO strategy, it’s a wonderful marketing tool and blogging is lots of fun! A new blog will allow you to make smart and strategic choices. Just take a little time to think about how to set up your blog before you begin, so you’ll have less work later on. Let me share some tips with you on how to start a blog.
Choose your niche
You should always write about what you know. But you should not write about everything you know. Pick a niche. Decide upon a main topic and write posts related to that topic. It’s more likely that your audience will come back and read your other posts if you’re writing about similar topics. People will know what to expect. Starting a mom blog implies that you write about all things concerning your children and family life. Starting a travel blog implies you write about traveling. You can write about something slightly off topic once in a while of course, but try to stick to your niche. An audience of a travel blog doesn’t expect a blog post about gardening.
Before you rush out and start asking questions, there are a few things to keep in mind. Asking questions takes time. Asking questions implies that you’re going to listen to the answers. Asking these kinds of questions will annoy some people. Understanding each of these issues will help you formulate your questioning strategy, so let’s take a look at each.
Asking questions takes time
Don’t kid yourself about this one. You can’t approach people with important questions without allowing for the time it takes to hear the answers. When faced with a good question, most people actually think for a while, formulate their answer, deliver it, and expect a response. Often the response is a follow-up question that starts the process all over again. This takes time. It is rude to ask a question if you don’t have the time to listen to and absorb the answer. It is inconsiderate to interrupt someone’s day and ask them a question without determining if they have the time to answer.
Many leaders don’t ask questions because of the time factors involved. When things settle clown, they say, then I’ll have the time to ask questions. If you are a leader who’s waiting for things to settle down, you’re going to be waiting a long time. You need to make the time to ask questions. It’s your job.
Asking questions implies that you’re going to listen to the answers
Remember the story about the man who wanted a note to his wife to prove that he’d passed my listening course? Remember my answer? Understanding the process of good listening doesn’t ensure actually applying those principles.